Getting a healthy space in your relationship is very important to its success and if done at the right time and approached the correct way can add quality to your relationship. Typically when you think of asking your partner for space, you see the end of your union in the near future. Bridging a small gap between you two doesn’t have to be all doom and gloom, in fact taking a break can be a healthy refresher to reignite the flame in your relationship.
We do sometimes question the love we have for our partner if we feel tired of seeing them every day, our hearts not skipping a beat when they announce that they are coming over, if the spark is gone then this must be it, we should go looking for another, but that doesn’t have to be the case when you are thinking about the healthy space in your relationship.
Healthy space in a relationship means just that, and here are some things you can do to ensure that your relationship remains healthy.
- Go for a few days without seeing each other, if in a long distance relationship, go for a few days without talking to each other. If you find that having physical space is the only way to keep sanity in your relationship, talk to your partner about creating that space. Do not think if the person resist it is a bad thing, but just consider this the first step towards a healthy solution to your problems. You would hate to have a good thing and one person smothered the other with too much attention. Respect each others need to learn how to survive on an independent basis, and part ways temporarily for the benefit of your bond.
- Reduce the way you communicate. Whether dating or married, on the verge of a breakup, or so fresh in the relationship that it’s becoming smothering, a quick way to widen the space between you two is to lower the amount of times you text each other in a day, healthy space in your relationship doesn’t mean quality time instead of quantity time. Text only a couple times a day and make it count.
- Work in other rooms if you are prone to spend all of your time doing everything in the same space. Instead of reading a magazine on the couch while your partner works on a late-night work project right next to you, use another room which you’ve designated as leisure or office space. Separating from other in these cases will help you both in appreciating time together when you rejoin.
- Be honest with your feelings. Too many times one person is feeling overwhelmed by the other partner being around too much and is afraid to say space as it is frowned upon as not loving your partner enough, but you should discuss with your partner that a healthy relationship is that both people can stay involved emotionally and flow in the amount of space each one takes at any given time. Some periods of time may be predominantly about one person, while most of the time the couple will stay fairly balanced. Neither partner will shut out the other or be too far emotionally from the relationship at any given time.
Balance is the key to any successful healthy relationship, work on balancing the amount of emotional space you take up in your relationship so that both of you get the room you need to be yourself.